Embrace Your True Self
I just jumped off a call with Cordelia Gaffar, America’s Leading Ladies Co-Author with Oprah Winfrey and Emotions Opener Transformational Coach. I found this call both enlightening and reassuring. And this is why.
See, over the past couple years, really after moving back to the United States from Europe I have struggled with my identity. While yes, in Big Time Journey of a Small Town Girl I “found” myself out on the road and ultimately in Belgium where life seemed like magic, where every door became open to me and all I had to do was walk over the threshhold. Yet, since becoming a mother and coming back to the States, a land that I don’t always resonate with, I have been troubled with finding my place in the world again. I have questioned…is it enough to just be a mom, and I have a feeling many other first time mom’s have also asked themselves that.
While I have had many different activites to occupy my time and give me purpose outside the home, I was still conflicted. Over the past two years, I always felt like the bird sitting on the fence never knowing what way the wind was blowing to guide my next flight. I’ve been searching and have only recently started to see, and more importantly feel, that I am gaining my bearings.
I have reflected over and over again on what made the difference between Belgium and the United States? Why did it all click across the pond and not in my own back yard? And you know what I found? I was living from my heart before. I was unapologetically real. I was me. I wasn’t trying to fit a role, a trend or be anything other than happy with myself. I may have been lost at times, scared at others and on top of world many times over. The ups and downs were no different than what we face on a daily basis, but what I found was, because I was jiving to the beat of my own drum, flowing organically with life, everything seemed effortless transitioning between the high’s and the low’s. The people, the places, my god, the experiences were astounding!
And so, now that I threw out some of my vulnerabities in this article, I come back to the lesson. From here on out, those that love me will do so because they see the real me, the flawed, sometimes isolated, ambitious, adventurous woman I am. The woman that wants to give back to society by helping others and reshape our future for the better.
Join me. Operate each day from a place of gratitude and be authentic in your words and actions. There are no masks or fronts to set forth. If you set off to do something great in this world, do so from a place of truth and service. From the words of Cordelia, you are “free to be.”